Showing posts with label one hard horrible month. Show all posts
Showing posts with label one hard horrible month. Show all posts

Sunday, September 9, 2012

One month


One  Month
It has been one month since my sweet, sweet boy returned home to Heaven.

I thought that twelve years of caring for Bubba were hard but they are nothing compared to a month without him.

One month ago today I woke up like any other day and was happy to find that Bubba was feeling well. Hubs was working so he couldn’t play with us. {Oh, he works so hard for us.}  So, we went on an adventure with our friend Ms. Sherrie and her sweet nephew who was in town. We went to one of our favorite places, The Aquarium of the Pacific. We touched the fishes, we fed the birds, we laughed, we smiled, and we enjoyed a good morning. We didn’t waste a good day, nope…. never and for that I will forever be grateful.  







 


"Memories are the treasures that we keep locked deep within the storehouse of our souls, to keep our hearts warm when we are lonely." Becky aligada


The next morning was a very different morning and out of all of the feelings of guilt or regret ....living each moment with my boy was not one of them. It has always been my mission to create memories for our family to hang onto forever. After Regan was born and Bubba’s health would have its ups and downs I was always worried that if something happened while she was young she wouldn’t have memories of him.  I am so grateful that she has sweet, happy, and fun memories with her Bubba, even from the morning of his passing. 

I learned early on in motherhood that a good day was just too precious to waste.  So, this is the message that I want to pass on to you today.  Don’t waste a good day friends, please!!! You don’t have to go to Disneyland, the Aquarium, or anything big, it could simply be a trip to the park.  Make sure when your child wants you to sit on the ground and play a game of Life you don’t dismiss them for a television show or a book. Make sure that you listen, truly listen to what they are saying to you. Shoot, I have to remind myself of this still and get back in the habit of it now that I am a mother only caring for one child.  ENJOY your children. Find joy in the simple tasks of helping them with homework and going for walks around the block. Look for ways to make memories, big or small. I promise you that you will not regret it if you do.

"Life gives us brief moments with one another.... but sometimes in those brief moments we get memories that last a life time..."

This past weekend I had several, HARD, but sweet opportunities to make memories with my sweet girl. My sister was in town with her little family for vacation at Disneyland. It was hard to get myself motivated to go but I knew that once we went and spent time with cousins it would be worth it. I pushed myself and I was rewarded with so many sweet smiles, and gasps from my little girl as we cuddled and watched the world of color show together. Watching her smile made me smile. {oh, how I needed to smile.} This is a sweet and tender moment with my girl that I will forever be grateful for.  The next day Hubs, Regan, and I went back to the hotel to play in the awesome pool with my sister and her babies. Again, it would have been easy to stay at home all day BUT once we got there we had so much fun!  We played chase with our sweet nephew in the pool until Uncle Jason’s arms could no longer hold him. I can’t remember the last time that I laughed that much.  It was a sweet blessing in the form of a new memory being made.
 
This week while you are with your sweet children MAKE SOME MEMORIES! I want to hear about them!!! BIG or little it doesn’t matter…. Let Bubba’s legacy inspire YOU to cherish each day and LIVE it! Today has been a HARD day. One month….. after I am done breaking down today we might just have to make a new memory of a dance party to celebrate that we have survived one month as a family when it felt like we wouldn’t make it one day.

 At the end of the day I will never regret beautiful memories made......