A daily climb
Each new day brings with it a new mountain to climb. Every
day I wake up and decide how strong I feel and how big of a climb I can make
that day. Lately, I have only been conquering tiny little mountains because I haven’t
been up for the climb of a big one. I have stayed away from our usual stores
and restaurants, avoiding the looming questions like “Where’s Bubba?” or “How’s
our boy doing today?” I have not gone through any of Bubba’s things yet, other
than his medical equipment that needed to be picked up because of insurance. I
plan on doing that after Regan starts back to school. So, other than going to
Church {which was emotionally draining} I haven’t chosen to conquer any huge
mountains.
Until today that is.
Regan received a very kind gift from my Uncle Terry and Aunt
Susan, a gift card to Build A Bear. She has been begging to go from the second
she opened the card. ;-) Nana, Ms. Sherrie, and I took Regan to Build A Bear on
Monday so that she could make a new friend. She was in Heaven! While we were
there we decided to also make a new cuddly friend for one of Bubba’s friends
who was just hospitalized. When we saw the dog we knew it would be the perfect
gift since she has been begging her mom for a real one FOREVER. ;-) After
stuffing our new friends we headed to lunch and then called it a day. {Disneyland
was in close distance but that was more than this Mommy could handle that day.}
Regan's new friend
Making Liz's new friend.
Why did we want to get this young warrior a special gift you
ask? You see this amazing girl has not only been a great friend to Bubba but
also to Regan. When we returned home from our trip the first stop that we made
was to see Bubba at the cemetery. When we walked up to his special spot there
was a big red heart balloon that this BIG hearted friend had insisted on
bringing. There were also necklaces with Regan’s name on them from her as well.
When we pulled up to our home the front door had a big sign welcoming us home
from her as well and lots of happy balloons. This sweet young lady went out of
her way to make Regan’s home coming as happy and bright as possible.
So, I sent our friend’s Mommy a text and let her know what
we were doing. She quickly responded by saying that she loved it but not to
push myself by coming to see them before I was ready. Ah, what a smart friend.
;-) I wasn’t ready Monday… Tuesday… Wednesday…. And then today came.
I woke up and felt a little stronger and felt the need that
to go, today would be the day that we would go and visit our friend. I prayed
and then asked my Bubba to help me through this one. I knew that this was going
to be a HUGE mountain to climb. I asked
Regan if she wanted to go with me and she quickly responded with “of course I
want to go mom!”
Today was the first time that I have been back to “Bubba’s”
hospital since I left it empty handed twenty one days ago. The massive height of this mountain was made
clear from the second that I stepped into the front door. At the front desk was
one of Bubba’s girlfriends, a sweet lady that loved him and that he loved
flirting with. When we stepped up and told her where we were going she looked
at Regan and me and then looked up at me and asked “Where’s my boy??” Tears
filled my eyes as I told her that her boyfriend had passed away. While we were
talking one our buddies from admin walked up and said “Hey, we haven’t seen you
guys in a while… where’s my friend??” I didn’t answer right away. I was trying
so hard not to break down in the foyer of the hospital. He looked at me and
then asked me if I was ok. Our friend “the secretary” grabbed his hand and gave
it a squeeze. He looked at me and I just nodded. The three of us had a silent
moment followed by hugs. They could tell that I was trying to be strong for
Regan and were very sweet.
It would have been so easy to turn and run. No one would
have blamed me, right? In that moment I felt a sweet nudge, no doubt from my
boy, letting me know that it would be ok. On the walk across the hospital to
her room I was able to pull myself together, grateful that we did not run into
any other friends. Before opening the door I begged my sweet Bubba to help me
and quickly put a smile on my face. Regan and I walked in the room and as soon
as we made eye contact our little warrior friend started to smile. Regan
quickly gave her our presents and explained why we got the dog… we are all
working on her mom to get her that darn dog she’s been promising. HINT HINT.
;-) Liz pulled out her pictures from her trip to Boston and went through every
single one of them with us as she laughed and told us stories about them. I
looked over to see our sweet friend’s Mommas eyes filled with tears but didn’t
give it much thought. Regan and I had only planned on staying a few minutes but
we ended up being there around two hours. The time just flew by and I didn’t
even realize it until Hubs started texting me, worried about me.
After all of the pictures had been discussed we said our
good byes and made our way home. I was amazed at how “easy” and wonderful the
visit had ended up being. I walked away feeling so happy and blessed by the
extra strength my Bubba gave me in those few hours.
Later I received this message from Liz’s Momma….
"Julie, your visit was such a blessing to Liz; she hadn't talked to us and has been so upset since last night. Like a switch turned on, it was amazing how she perked up and didn't stop talking once you and Regan got here. The nurses and child life are talking about how much you two made her snap out of her funk. Grateful!! I can only imagine how difficult coming here was and I pray that in some small way this visit gave you a tiny bit in your process. As painful as it must have been, once again, even in your pain, you (and your Bubba) brought comfort to someone. Love you guys.
PS- in response to what you wrote on the card, Liz read it and said "I know he was here" : ) Such hard things that have brought such wonderful friends into our lives. "
So, the tears started again. I can’t tell you how grateful I
am for MY sweet little angel that pushed me to keep going despite how hard the
climb started. That sweet angle of mine new that his friend was having a hard
time and was angry, he knew that a smile could make all of the difference. I am grateful for this crummy hard road that
we have traveled over the past twelve years because it has brought amazing
people into our lives. I am grateful for my sweet little girl that new that comedy
and a smile would make all the difference. I LOVE that Regan isn’t fazed one
bit by a hospital room. I LOVE that she was wanted to pass on the smile that
her sweet friend had given her the day that we came home from our trip. I am
grateful that I am still learning from my sweet boy.
I LOVE how easy it is to forget your worries when you are in
the service of others.
“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the
service of others.”
― Mahatma
Gandhi
I desperately miss the service that I was able to give my
sweet Bubba on a daily basis but I am grateful that he is making sure to find
acts of service that I can still do. :-)
“The best antidote I know for worry is work. The best cure
for weariness is the challenge of helping someone who is even more tired. One
of the great ironies of life is this: He or she who serves almost always
benefits more than he or she who is served.”
― Gordon
B. Hinckley,
Today I was blessed beyond measure by a brave sweet young
woman.
One mountain down…. A million more to climb.
Hey, speaking of service... {insert perfect moment for a plug} we are having our first service project in Bubba's name. We were planning on doing this "before" but now want to do it on an even bigger scale! We are having a pillow case drive. You see the wonderful child life, the fun people at the hospital that play games, bring movies, and spoil the kids with presents, said that they could use some pillow cases. Well, we want to overwhelm them with pillow cases in Bubba's name. ;-) The reason why they {and us parents} love the pillow cases is because it just cheers up the room, something as simple as a pillow case can make a big difference. So, what am I asking? Get out your sewing machines people and get to work... wink! Look, a pillow case is the easiest thing you can make. Grab some kid friendly, fun, and bright fabric and sew a couple simple straight lines. ;-) Ok, so for those of you that don't want to sew... watch for sales and buy some fun kids pillow cases and them send them our way. I can't wait to see how many we get!!!! We are planning on donating them around Christmas time..... so times a tickin'.... ;-)
{notice the awesome pillow case on Bubba's lap... His birthday present just a couple of weeks ago was wrapped in a fun pillow case. We LOVE Child Life and want to give back.}
and here a few more from that day just becuase I want to. ;-)
